See this as a way to forcefully move your life forward young mingu. Seriously tho seems highly likely that the only way forward is leaving your family behind. You have one of the most screwed up families I know so I don't think this idea will be a foreign one for you.
I could probably find a place. Heck I already know a few with reasonable rent because I've been looking for places to live should I get into uni. (Which I no longer desire but that's a topic for another day)
No clue what to do about finding a new job though. Most businesses would never, ever bother themselves with me when there is another applicant (which there always is). My current workplace is special, and even so they don't want to keep me around.
Nyoro~n